Betty Irabor Shares Encounter With Groom Who Belittled His Bride On Their Wedding Day By Comparing Her To The Publisher
Betty Irabor has recounted an incident at a wedding that prompted her and her husband, Soni Irabor, to step in.
The Genevieve magazine publisher shared the story to remind her followers that we all “bloom and age differently”.
She narrated how the groom compared his new bride to her, telling the bride that Ms. Irabor is older, yet his wife looks older.
She said the statement affected the wife’s mood and her husband had to correct the groom while she tried to cheer the bride up.
She wrote: “WE BLOOM DIFFERENTLY AND AGE DIFFERENTLY
“Some time ago, my husband and I attended a wedding. As we made our way into the reception hall, we spotted a middle age couple taking photos at the Photo Booth.
“They seem quite happy.
“The husband turned out to be my husband’s old classmate, and we were all smiles as we exchanged warm greetings and handshakes.
“Everything was light and joyful—until the man turned to his wife and said with a laugh, ‘Guess Auntie Betty’s age? She’s over 60—ten years older than you! See her and see yourself!’
“A loud silence followed, and then an uneasy stillness.
“The poor woman’s smile faded instantly. You could almost feel the air change.
“Sensing her discomfort, Soni casually took his friend aside and had a quiet word with him about how not to talk to or about your partner—privately or in public—while I made small talk to ease her unease.
“Listen! Putting your partner down, whether publicly or privately, is a form of emotional abuse. It chips away at her self-esteem, layer by layer.
“Comparing her to others is unkind—because we all bloom differently, age differently, and carry our responsibilities differently. The wear and tear of life shows up uniquely on each of us.
“There are always better ways to speak to your wife—ways that uplift rather than diminish.
“A woman who has to endure constant criticism and comparison from her husband soon loses her light.
“With time, her confidence fades, and her laughter becomes guarded.”
