My Mother Failed Me — 24-Year-Old Nigerian Lady Opens Up About Years Of Manipulation, Neglect And Betrayal

A 24-year-old Nigerian woman, Oladosu Ola Jumoke, has gone viral after opening up about her painful childhood and the deep emotional trauma she suffered, especially due to her mother’s actions.

In a lengthy video shared online, Ola described her mother as “a narcissist, a manipulator, & a woman who failed me.”

She said she decided to speak up after years of silence, not out of hate, but out of a need for healing & truth.

According to her, her parents divorced in 2015 when she was just 14. Her father, a trader based in Ibadan, lost everything after customs seized his goods, plunging the family into financial hardship.

Her mother, a nurse, left him & moved away with her other children, leaving Ola behind because she was still on scholarship at the time.

When she later joined her mother & siblings, things took a painful turn. Ola said her mother was in a relationship with a wealthy man who barely supported them, yet constantly pressured her & her sister to “use what they had” to bring in money.

At just 15, Ola says she witnessed disturbing things — from her mother comparing her and her sister to other girls who “had boyfriends that gave them money,” to encouraging behavior that no child should be pressured into.

By 17, Ola said she was introduced to an older man, 20 years her age, who eventually began a relationship with her — allegedly with her mother’s full knowledge and approval.



“She even knelt down and begged me to accept him,” Ola recalled tearfully. “She said he would take care of us & sponsor my education.”



Ola said she later moved to Ibadan with the man, hoping to find her father again. But what awaited her was abuse.

“He would beat me, even when I was pregnant,” she said. “When I told my mom, she asked me what I did to provoke him and told me to calm down.”



She said her mother manipulated her father into believing she had “run away with a man for money,” cutting her off from him for years.

Eventually, tired and broken, Ola ab*rted her pregnancy, reached out to her father — who forgave her & took her in.

“My dad cried when he saw me,” she said quietly. “He hugged me and said he would never push me away. He sent me back to school, paid my fees, and prayed for me every day.”

Ola revealed that while her father struggled financially, he made sure she and her sister completed their education, even if it meant living with just a few clothes and working tirelessly to support them.

She also played voice notes of her mother allegedly saying, “I’m not the one who sent you to school. Your father did.”

As Ola put it at the end of her video, “I’m not telling this story to destroy my mother. I’m telling it so that no one will ever make another child feel the way I did — unloved, unprotected, and unseen.”

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